Day 1 of 365.
2019 is here!!! Let’s welcome the New Year with some gentle reflection on the last 12 months and aim for bigger, badder and better things in these next 12 months! The following is a list of the top 18 life lessons I learned in 2018:
1. Snip Snip.
Let go of anything toxic in your life. Declutter baby! If it doesn’t add value to your life then just cut it out because you don’t need toxic food, thoughts, substances or relationships draining your precious energy. There’s too much magic out there for you to miss out because of the negative energy that’s weighing you down.
2. Stop saying ‘sorry’.
You should never apologise for being you. Put yourself first and forget other people’s expectations. I’m the kind of person who would probably apologise to a pigeon if it flew straight into me but I’ve learned this year especially, that you shouldn’t say sorry unless you’ve hurt someone or you’re in the wrong. There’s absolutely NO need to live constantly apologising for your very existence. Regardless of what you or anyone else thinks, you ARE loved and needed and you have the potential to do anything you want so chin up buttercup ^^.
3. Be kinder and softer on yourself and your body.
Honestly, this is something that I’m still struggling with. I’m always quicker to point out all my flaws than to simply say ‘thank you’ when someone gives me a compliment. This year I’ve made a conscious effort to accept my body and the fact that it is constantly changing, every day, every week, every month even just by the hour. I’ve gradually become less concerned with looking ‘perfect’ in societies’ eyes and more interested in doing the things that make me feel good – the things that make me feel healthy and strong. That’s different for everyone but for me it’s eating clean, spending time outdoors, creating art, following a skin care routine and dancing.
4. It’s all about intention. YOU CONTROL YOUR LIFE!!!
Intention and goals are two very different things. Anyone can set a goal but when the goal is backed with intention that’s when it becomes powerful. So set intention and start achieving your goals.
5. Stop prioritising people who don’t prioritise you.
Honestly cannot stress this enough, if someone wants to be in your life and wants you to be in their life then they will make it obvious. If you have to keep second guessing a person’s intentions and whether or not they value you in their life then draw a big fat X because if they wanted you with them as a friend, family member, lover etc. you would know.
6. You gain so much strength when you allow yourself to be vulnerable.
I touched on this in my ‘What I Learned in 2017’ post but the more genuine and real you get with yourself and the people around you, the more in tune you are with your own emotions. This means that you can experience your emotions on a deeper, rawer and more intense level.
7. Be consistent, be patient.
If you want to see results then you’ve got to put in the work, effort and time. There is no shortcut to success. You just have to be consistent with whatever you’re doing and patient enough to let success find its way to you but also keep expanding and pushing the boundaries (or you’ll never grow or create anything new).
8. It’s okay to change your mind.
There is no right or wrong way to do things. I feel like a major part of growing up is having the courage to explore all your options and being able to recognise what does and does not feel right for you.
This year I dropped out of a college degree that I only had one year left in and I started a Fashion Design Diploma. I’m not going to lie, that was pretty scary. Everyone was telling me that I was making a huge mistake because if I stuck it out for just one more year then at least I’d have a sheet of paper that proves what… that I was miserable for three years? I felt pretty depressed because although I found my degree interesting, I didn’t find it fulfilling. It just wasn’t me. I was just following the system without thinking about what it was that I really wanted to do. So I guess what I want to say is that it’s never to late to opt out and start something new. I know it’s intimidating, trust me, I do. When I decided to make my portfolio and apply for fashion school I was so worried that I wouldn’t be good enough and that I would be left with nothing but I guess if you’re true to yourself then you’ll put in the work that it takes to get to where you need to be.
Also let me just add this real quick, when you stop resisting the things that you want, the universe works in your favour and life suddenly becomes very magical.
9. People DO change.
Every now and then someone you least expect it from can surprise you.
10. Friends grow, both closer and apart.
This year I’ve both lost a lot of people who I thought were friends but I’ve also met a lot of amazing, creative and inspiring humans who I know are friends. Life happens, if you’re doing the things that bring you joy and make you feel alive then you’re gonna attract people into your life that will sustain those feelings and drift away from people who bring you down and drain your energy and enthusiasm.
11. Avocado sushi is so much better with black rice and it is indeed very possible to be kicked out of a sushi bar… I love you baby.
I won’t get into it but this one is pretty self-explanatory, not much to expand on. Just go easy on the wasabi I guess.
12. There is always space for improvement and growth.
You are not an expert and you definitely do not know everything… just yet (most likely ever) Expand. Be brave. Be curious. Try new things. Also don’t be afraid to admit that you’re not there yet, it’s okay. We all have so much more to learn, so much more to explore, to see, to experiment and to eat ^^.
13. Life is all about motion – nothing is permanent.
Change is inevitable. Life is all about growth and motion. There are days when I find this a little bit scary but at this stage it’s something that I find exciting. If anything, the prospect of constantly staying the same and never outgrowing where I am right now or developing further is what scares me. So yeah embrace change and keep things spicy!
14. It’s not your job to ‘fix’ other people or their problems.
This was probably one of the hardest lessons of 2018 for me. By nature I’m a very empathetic person as I’m easily effected by energies (which is something that I’m currently learning how to control). So my first response whenever I see anyone suffering is to go and help them. The thing is, not everyone wants to be helped. Some people just want to rant and complain but when you offer them genuine advice they either get frustrated or just ignore it. I totally get it, like I rant sometimes too to blow off steam but if this is a constant just do yourself a favour and stay away from these people. These people thrive off drama and will never be satisfied. If this is what you’re into then by all means go ahead but it definitely ain’t me!
15. Don’t take it personally.
Just do you B! All of us have stuff going on in our private lives that we don’t like to broadcast to the whole world. You never know what’s going on behind another person’s smile. So if someone mistreats you don’t take it personally, they’re probably just projecting all their undealt with emotions – which is their problem NOT yours. By no means am I saying to be a pushover and just take whatever sh!t someone throws at you but you know stand up for yourself try not to let it get to you.
16. Simplify your life.
Donate or sell all the clothes, shoes and bags that are just collecting dust in your wardrobe. Clean your space. Reset your palate. Get rid of all the clutter. Break it down, when you’re dealing with different situations or tasks that seem way too overwhelming at first, it really helps me to break it down in to smaller, more manageable tasks. Oh, I find bullet journals so helpful in terms of organisation and brainstorming.
17. You need to rest.
Take breaks. Go outside. Do tech detoxes. Try Yoga. Practice meditation. BREATHE. Take time to unwind and unload then try again.
18. If there’s something you want to know, just ask.
Stop over-thinking it darling. Don’t stress yourself out coming up with all sorts of conclusions and worst-case-scenarios when in truth you actually don’t know. Do yourself a favour and cut out all the unnecessary worry and anxiety by simply asking. Once you know, you can figure out for yourself whether you need to stress or not and if you panic, panic carefully.
That’s pretty much it for me. What did you learn in 2018? I’m gonna sign off now with this, I hope 2019 is filled with love, new adventures and success for you all! Happy New Year my loves!
Sending love and light always,